Rani, my second self.

Nurhairani Alviana. Dipanggil Rani. Branch Finance Staff di SAT Pontianak. Kenal dia pertama kali, gara- gara kita satu kontrakan waktu di Cikokol, Tangerang. Dari awal kenal udah kerasa ni anak easy going banget. Easy going buat Tia yaa karena kita punya hobi yang hampir sama: sering males mandi. Kalo udah siang baru mandi. Kita juga males gerak kalo udah di kontrakan, tapi kalo udah urusan jalan- jalan, baru deh paling cepet responnya. Dia anak yang gak perlu waktu lama untuk bisa akrab sama orang. She is pretty, attractive and fun. 

Rani termasuk orang yang gak malu buat mengekspresikan apa yang dia rasain. Dia selalu tampil dengan apa adanya dia. Dia lakukan apapun sesuai kehendak hati dia, sesuai dengan apa yang buat dia ngerasa nyaman. Karena dia selalu ngerasa nyaman sama dirinya sendiri, itu juga yang buat orang lain ngerasa nyaman kalo di dekat dia. 

We love to share many things; about love, our feelings, and our future. We believe in fairy tales and always dream to live a ‘happily ever after’ life. Sosok suami impian kita ibarat seorang pangeran berkuda putih yang bakal menyelamatkan kita dari sebuah istana yang penuh drama. Terkadang hidup kami memang agak drama, dalam artian, kita selalu memaknai setiap detail dalam hidup sebagai sebuah filosofi yang berharga. Kita selalu belajar dari setiap pengalaman dan tidak menganggap remeh setiap kesalahan. Drama kami adalah drama dalam artian positif, tidak ngerugiin orang tapi terkadang cukup membuat ribet diri sendiri. Yah, itulah kami. Makanya dalam hal pencarian jodoh kami menghindari cowok yang banyak drama. Cukup sudah drama itu di diri kita aja. Gak mau kan kalo sifat dramatis yang ada di diri kita jadi kuadrat.

Senengnya ada Rani, walaupun dia lebih muda dalam hal umur tapi pemikirannya jauh lebih dewasa. Sejalan juga sama dia yang selama ini udah terbiasa hidup mandiri, jauh dari orang tua, dan terbiasa ngerjain apa- apa sendiri. Someone told me kalo kita uda terbiasa jauh dari orang tua, kita bakal mendewasa lebih cepet. And it was right.

Rani, salah satu orang terbaik di SAT Pontianak. Ramahnya, ketawanya, manjanya, gokilnya, isengnya, dan meweknya, khas banget. Hal- hal itu yang mungkin bakal Tia kangenin banget dari dia.

Nurhairani Alviana. Dipanggil Rani. Mulai besok, akan jadi Branch Finance Staff di Balaraja. Dia bakal berangkat malam ini ninggalin Pontianak, buat merantau ke branch baru. We’re gonna miss you so much, Rani. Thanks for everything you share, for everything you give and everything you do. You have no idea how precious you are. Keep being you and never stops to do good and spread happiness around you. Take care my second self, we’re gonna meet again. See you. We love you.

Harm and Good of Stereotype

“Don’t judge the book by its cover.” When people go to the book store and try to find some books, they usually have already had some opinions and suggestions about what books they are going to buy. Their decisions really depend on what people say about the books. Others will take a look at their outlook like the covers, pictures, colors, titles, or authors. Meanwhile, the rest will figure out what topic they find interesting and explore it by themselves without considering their covers and others’ opinion about it. Those cases similarly happen  with stereotype. What is stereotype? Based on an online source, it is believed that “A stereotype is a generalization of one thing. Anything can be stereotyped.” (Chan). Why people stereotype and how people look at stereotype? Next explanation will be focused on how stereotypes affect people in daily life, whether harmfully or positively.

Negative stereotype may cause bad perceptions and the ignorance of people to accomplish new things. It can be done by two different ways; accidentally and on purpose. When it happened accidentally, sometimes the stereotypes are brought by people who know less and are not directly involved in such situations. For example, someone watches the movie about Saudi Arabia where people ride camels instead of cars, then they will create an idea that people in Saudi Arabia do not have cars. Therefore, stereotypes created on purpose mean that there are some particular groups who develop wrong ideas about something. Stangor’s argument agreed that people use stereotypes to simplify something about others and to build their own perception and groups to which they belong. (Bower)

However, some reasons may indicate that stereotypes can bring and  guide people before deciding something. This is called a positive stereotype. Stereotypes can increase people’s knowledge about something and anticipate some bad things that possibly occur. For instance, if some people say that Arizona is a place where everybody brings guns, then they must be aware to not go out late at night, especially women. Besides, stereotypes are also used to mark something becomes an identity to make it easier to remember. “Such generalizations are necessary: in order to be able to interact effectively, we must have some idea of what people are likely to be like, which behaviors will be considered acceptable, which not. “ (Livetext) 

Some stereotypes could be considered acceptable if it doesn’t harass human’s right and freedom. People will stereotype because people are always thinking, they like to generalize ideas and stigmatize something. As long as it is used in positive ways, then stereotypes can be an effective way to help people interact with other communities. According to a research project in multicultural education, “What can be done to deal with negative stereotypes: the key to reversing negative stereotypes is to contradict them, in direct interactions between people, in the media, and through education.” (Livetext). It means although some negative stereotypes spread among people, but still can be conquered. 

To conclude, stereotypes is an interesting term to be discussed among people. It all depends to every single person on how they deal with it. Whether positive or negative, stereotypes is part of humanity culture. It is a natural way of human to express their thinking and opinions. Yet, stereotypes is also an interesting field to be studied further. Studying about stereotype makes us more creative to explore the other side of the world.   

Procrastination, Habit or Situation?

　　　　As many people study and work in different fields of study, they become very busy and exhausted of their everyday activities. Some people only focus on studying, some people only focus on working, and there are some people who do both studying and working. As a consequence, these people will always have homework or a project that should have been done on a due date. All their grades or qualities really depend on how they manage their time to be punctual to the due date of their work. Nowadays, many of these people can’t avoid the best enemy in their homework: procrastination. By identifying what are the causes that overcome the procrastination, the procrastinators may find the solution on how they can minimize it.  There are two basic factors that often cause procrastination, internal factors and external factors.

　　　　The first factor is internal factor.  It means the cause of the procrastination comes from the willingness of the people themselves.  They do it because they enjoy doing it.  Furthermore, there may be two reasons why they enjoy it.  The first reason because they think they can handle it in a short period of time since it is too easy, so they become lazy.  Their perception is that the homework is less important than their video games, television or ipod.  Another is due to the paradigm of working best under pressure.  It indicates that people cannot think clearly and accurately if it is still long times before its due.  These kinds of people are used to stimulating their minds to work faster and better under pressure, in this case, time pressure.  It is better to decide which reason the procrastinators are currently in before taking a look at another factor.

　　　　The second factor of procrastination is the external factor.  An external factor is the factor that comes from the environment or situation. Most of the causes can be from friends and family.  Those are two most intimate relationships around people.  This type of procrastination appears because the procrastinators are easy- influenced people.  If they meet their friends who are on the way to the movie while they are working on a research paper, then they will postpone their work easily.  As a result, the procrastination occurs and it happens again and again until the final due.  From a family perspective, the majority of procrastinators confess that their parents or siblings ask them to do something like cleaning, doing house works or just relaxing with other family members, simply called as an obligation.  Sometimes it makes the procrastinators frustrated but at the same time they have to respect their family.  It has been clearly stated that friends and family have a big influence on the procrastinators.

　　　　Procrastination can be a serious problem if it happens many times.  Besides requiring to work harder and in a rush, it also affects brain to create it as a habit.  Once the habit has begun, then it will be very difficult to resist. In addition, not all of the procrastinators can finish their work completely, many of them just finish it in order to catch the due date without doing their best in accomplishing it.  It can decrease productivity as human resources.  And if people want to find some jobs to achieve success, they have to convince others that they are trustful, punctual, and wise.

　　　　In brief, whether procrastination comes as habit or just the situation, it is not something that people can be proud of.  It is a bad thing that people must avoid as soon as possible.  If the housework can be done right now, why wait until tomorrow?  Use time wisely, because it is the most precious thing that cannot be repeated. 

Hello AB!

I was still surprised that I could be a part of AKU BELAJAR. Eka, Jannah and I were accepted in Program Division, together with Kak Elisa and Kak Dwi. What a pride. Eka and I were very happy. Tonight was our first meeting, well.. actually it is more like a gathering to greet new members. The gathering spotted in Kak Susi’s house. We were served by donuts and bakwan lawit. I didn’t eat any of them. Maybe because I was too excited so I did not really care about the food. All boards of AB were there, except Olidd and Bang Sony. 

They told us a glimpse of being in Aku Belajar managements, which actually have faced a lot of good and bad times together.

If I can put in words what did they advice, as below;

“Just speak out what’s it in our minds, do not get afraid to give ideas, always keep in touch in online discussion, together we can make AB gets better” (#claps)